Yesterday
I was watching a movie and Big B was found advocating NO means NO. The movie was
beautifully crafted and gave sensible conclusions that no men, yes no men even
her husband has no right to outrage the modesty of a woman. #MeToo Campaign is an
icebreaking for all the ladies who had been silently accepting the sexual assaults
at their workplace since long. Without defending the predators, shouldn’t we
build some boundaries to it. Most of us would accept that a sexual relationship
starts with a confusion and ambiguity amongst both, but upon gaining conscious would
one of them start #MeToo. A husband recently caught up in #MeToo said that he
and his bride both had mixed feeling when they had that pleasure of enjoying their
first night after marriage. Does this means it was without consent.
On
the other side, India had been a country where izzat of a lady had been treated her sabse mehnga gehna not only in
the eyes of people but also for law equally. The law had made all efforts to uphold
the dignity of women in this patriarchal society. It has gone beyond favouring
them. When such indecent act takes place, it is very difficult to speak about it,
may be as difficult as to speak about corruption charges. I know, both the
things can’t be compared equally but it was that moment when predator tried to commit
the crime, the women should have slapped him tight and bring his acts in front
of everyone or even if she could not do it that time, she should have bounced
back within a reasonable time. When both the accused and victim have moved on
in life, it makes no sense cropping the issue after long 20-25 years in this #MeToo
movement. This could lead to disruption not only in life of accused but also to
people around both the parties. Imagine the embarrassment #MeToo would bring to
a child who learns about a teenage act of his father. At this juncture it is useless to talk about cost
involved in investigating a lied down matter.
Lets prepare boundaries for #MeToo |
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am sure #MeToo will build up boundaries in the relationships which men and
women enjoy. You never know, your spouse whom you trust more than yourself,
might stand up tomorrow and write a #MeToo against you. Or if youngsters who were
dating in college could not get married due to family issues, will invite
#MeToo. Or lets put it other ways, a boss favouring his female employee for
nothing is also digging a pit for #MeToo. Or if a teacher scolds or hits you,
is he creating a #MeToo problem for him/her. A male costume designer helping
you tie a saree and he touched you by mistake, is he also into trouble for
#MeToo. If a doctor touches the waist line/shoulder/neck necessary for diagnosis,
will he also be treated under #MeToo later. If this is the intensity with which
#MeToo is going to fuel up, I would suggest men to carry the consent letters in
their pocket and for any act, yes for any act they should first get the consent
signed mentioning the complete details and procedures involved.
Let
me reiterate, that I fully support #MeToo movement but we should set boundaries
and twitter should monitor such tweets and forward it to concerned
investigating authorities. This would save our society to maintain its garima in the eyes of the people. Once the
crime is proved, the accused should be certainly dragged and set an example for
others. By no means anyone has the right to outrage the modesty of women, and
if he is found doing so, he should be sentenced to punishment like in “PINK”
movie where Mr. Bachchan advocated “NO” means “NO” provided she speaks up there
and then.
Disclaimer: May be someone write
#MeToo against me for this article. This article above is merely my opinion and
every individual has his/her own right to form its opinion and act accordingly.
I Cant be held liable for any interpretation/understanding drawn from the article.
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